Personal Relations continued.

Example: If someone hurts our feelings and we are agressive, we would attack him personally, attack his character by saying insulting things to him. If we are passive, we would not say anything but would pout about it.. We would perhaps talk to others about him behind his back. If we are assertive, we would go to him and say something to this effect. I've been feeling angry about what you said, but I woild like for us to resolve our differences. Can we talk about it? Remember that no matter how we verbalize our anger, we must always be willing to forgive. Forgiving starts with an act of will. Forgiving is a choice. Sometimes it takes time to reprogram our feelings but we can always forgive a person by an act of the will.

The Ten Commandments of Human Relations
1. Speak to people. There is nothing as nice as a cheerful greeting.
2. Call people by name, not names. Sweetest music is to hear ones name called.
3. Have humility. there is something to be learned from every living thing.
4. Be friendly. If you want to have a friend, be one.
5. Be cordial. Speak and act as if everything you do is pleasure.
6. Be interested in others. You can like everyone if you try.
7. Be generous with praise, cautious with criticism.
8. Give your word, and keep it.
9. Be considerate of the feelings of others.
10. Be alert to give service. What counts most in life is what you do for others.

Plato said: "When individuals speak ill of you, so live that nobody will believe them."